The Power of a Simple "No"

Some things are harder to change than others. Digging deeply inside for the cause may help, but sometimes it eludes us. This is an introduction for using one simple word to regain your power, but I have an idea for you to take into consideration first.

In representation of this choice I would like to refer to the idea of 'conjunction'. At one with one and all. You're definitely one with all, this has always been the teaching of religion and spiritual leaders. To express this and live it out, find association with things you see and hear and let it become part of you. All of it, the good and the bad, embrace it all. That is God.

To accept this, find also within you your tendency to run from negative. This must be experienced too... BUT! The more you are accepting of the little negatives, the less you have to deal with the big negatives.

This doesn't mean take everyones crap. We've all been bullied at one time or another. We all believe there are things we must do that others tell us to, in order to survive. But, You can hold boundaries and still accept all of life.

Say No. NO NO NO. Feel free to say it over and over and embrace the power of you having the right to say no. That's part of your humanity as well. It is not immaturity, it is power.

Within this, you can equalize negativity so that it is comfortable and doesn't scare or repel you. Running away, putting it off, letting it slide, grumbling through it and generally avoiding negativity is a hurdle to overcome. We've been taught negativity is bad. One of the first things we've learned as children is that 'no' means bad.

Use your power of saying 'No' for a while and feel your power to refuse. Let yourself feel comfortable in it. No need to look for excuses. It's not your job to make everyone happy. The answer can simply be 'No, I will not, I choose not' You don't even have to have a reason. This is your right and your power. And it feels so much better to not be strapped into something you didn't want to do in the first place.

ONCE No becomes easy, then Yes becomes easier. And you come fully to embrace the 'yes' too, happy to make the decision. Happy you said yes and happy to experience it.

Start using this simple power. Don't think about the consequences. Don't let "what will happen if" scare you. Do what you feel and do it now. Say no if its no what you mean, for everything. THIS is your true power and the more you practice, the more power you will have. You just say no and that is that.

If it's an unending struggle for you to choose what you wish for, it may be because ultimately that answer, that decision may mean some kind of significant change to you. Embrace that change as well! Let things change. If change comes from the choices you make that stay true to yourself, your life will go more your way, and less everyone elses way.